My fiancé [23f] (who I have been with for almost 4 years) decided she no longer wanted to be with me [24m] in early august. She decided this very quickly, it felt like overnight. Within 3 weeks of this decision we had given up our new apartment/lease we started in may and gone our separate ways.
Her reasoning was that I did not motivate her to be better. This stemmed mostly from me working at a bar while I finish my degree and my own lack of motivation to go to the gym (I am regularly active outdoors). She has said multiple times that she tried to explain her issues with our relationship 4 separate time and I will admit I was avoiding the difficult conversation.
She moved to a city 4 hours away several days ago and has begun calling and texting me nearly non-stop asking me to do long distance and then move to her area when I get my degree. I am torn because I still love her but I no longer trust her. There was another occasion prior to our separation where she lied to my face about visiting a guy friend in the city she moved to. I think if I get back with her, she will just end up hurting me as this is the third time something similar has happened.
We had many good times as well as some bad times. I want to be with her but I almost feel like that wanting is just jealousy over her finding someone else instead of myself. I’m not really sure what to do and until now I have just been avoiding giving a yes or no answer to long distance and moving to her new area when I finish school. Any insight will be greatly appreciated and I will try my best to answer any questions.
Tldr: my fiancé broke up with me, moved to a new city and now wants me to do long distance and eventually move in with her.
Submitted August 06, 2021 at 12:34AM by Otherwise_Eagle_7130 https://ift.tt/2X2yIQR
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