I'm in a long term relationship and live in a city about three hours from my home town. I have a group of girlfriends there from high school. They never left and still live there. I've found though over the years we've grown and changed and I feel like we have nothing in common anymore. I met up with them recently after not seeing them for a long time after covid and it honestly felt like a chore I had to do. They also aren't the type of friends you'd go to with any problems or issues. They don't give good advice other than "you'll be fine".
I have another small group I do stuff with every now and again I met from my old job. Usually they are travel buddies and we have gone on vacations and stuff together. Again, not friends I am close enough to to go to with anything personal.
I have a big family (8 siblings) and these feel like built in friends. I have an older sister who I can go to with problems. I also of course have my other half who I see myself being with forever. When our whole family is together it feels like a big party.
Do I really need to be putting in effort to maintain friendships that I don't really feel benefit me (and vice versa, I'm sure I don't benefit them either) for the sake of having friends? Is it normal to not really have friends as you get older?
TL;DR I don't really have friends in my late 20s, should I be concerned?
Submitted August 01, 2021 at 01:33AM by FlashyStop5438 https://ift.tt/3fjRh9p
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