Hi I wonder if someone can help. I'm living with my partner of 2yrs who I think drinks a little too much. He won't drink spirits around me as I don't like his sudden attitude (downer/miserable/guilt trippy) and he has caused problems on my work nights. But he's lovely when he's sober or just had a few.
He has a bottle of red wine every night. I know that is not the worst thing but sometimes he's sick and other times he falls asleep with it in his hands and spills it over the carpet. Last night he was sick in the bed in the middle of the night. It went all over me and I had to be up for work in mere hours. He gets to sleep loads every night while I struggle with sleep I am lucky to get 5hrs.
I said I think he needs to stop drinking he's not a kid any more and his body can't handle it. He was drunk and staggering and said sorry 100x but never once suggested doing something about it. He's done this before he thinks if he says sorry enough that'll do. He's txt me twice this morning saying sorry again. I've asked him not to do this because it's empty words and the more he says it the more it seems he's not going to change.
He's recently quit smoking and says booze is next on the agenda.
I made us get up wash the entire bed and we had showers. The whole time he was apologising. It was starting to annoy me. But now I think maybe he had a bad stomach or something and I should have been more concerned and less annoyed. I am concerned with his health I've tried to get him to see someone or cut down but it's no good. Is this a lost cause?
Edit: I asked him to stop saying sorry and told him we need to go see a Dr together. He's said "no I'm not doing that I'll sort it don't worry." So refusing. I'm thinking of finding myself a meeting or something to help with coping.
TL:DR: Not sure if I heartless to not be considerate of my bf when he we sick in the bed likely due to drink or how to handle this now.
Submitted August 25, 2021 at 12:53AM by Daybreaker699 https://ift.tt/3Bdvjxe
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