[21M] Friend's father offers to pay my tuition if my friend and I study and live in the same university abroad, lost and unsure what to do

Hello everyone. So today I wanted to ask for some advice for what to do in this situation. It's a really tough point, and I am really unsure what to do. So the context is that I met this girl in uni almost 2 years ago. We soon became good friends, and back then I wanted to be her friend, but she gave me mixed signals, flirting with me then at the same time talking to other guys infront of me. So I was confused back then, but then she asked me out indirectly by saying we should date, but at that time I told her I'd rather be friends (unsure in hindsight whether that was a mistake or not). And friends we became, I even met her parents. She always had some problems in her life, which I was more than happy to help her solve and relieve her of some stress. All of that and more ​Until well COVID-19 hit, and we basically parted our own ways academically at least. She left to study in Europe and I stayed in my home country (which currently is a pretty bad state).

So what happened was we didnt meet up for almost a year, but spoke very frequently. This year she came back to our country, and we met up and had a great time. I was invited by her and her parents to stay with them in the mountains for a few days. I quite enjoyed it offcourse. Shes a good friend with me, but sometimes I feel like our relationship is slightly strained in the sense that sometimes it leaves me feeling empty, like voided inside, not sure how to describe it.

When I was there, her father essentially tells me I should go study with her in Europe. I told him I'd love to go study in Europe, but I can't afford it. He said he'd sponsor me. At the point I felt very conflicted. On one hand, it is my dream to study in Europe and perhaps build a future abroad outside all of my countries problems, but on the other hand, I feel it's not guaranteed, and the only reason he offered is so that I can stay with his daughter. Now I'd love to travel to a country with her there, but I'd prefer if it was with my own money, so I can have the freedom to do as I please. But, something like this is one in a life time, and they want to know what I will do. This added a heavy burden on my life, I am really lost. Would you advise me to accept? Or reject? If so how could I reject them respectfully, I am so lost and so stressed, almost going to crack. Please help me, any advice can help change a whole life, just a few words of wisdom. Please is all I can say. I really appreciate you taking the time to read this long post, even if you don't respond i understand, thank you nonetheless.

TL;DR : My friend's father offers to pay for my tution if I live with her abroad and study in her university. Conflicted on what to do, should I accept or reject?

Submitted August 01, 2021 at 07:22PM by Saddest_Person_Wrld https://ift.tt/2V7BOCC