My (29M) girlfriend (27F) of a year got herself fired from her job and I’m contemplating breaking up with her over it.

My girlfriend and I moved into a new place about a little less than a month ago. Our new place is fairly more expensive than my previous apartment but I agreed on the upgrade so she’d feel comfortable. I wanted her to feel as if it were “our” home and not just my place she’s living in.

We lived together for about 4 months prior to this move and I had been paying all the bills since she had some expenses moving to a new state.

Im an incredibly independent person and tend to keep a really tight grip on my finances. I’m fortunate enough to be in a stable job that pays me more than enough to take care of myself and some. I’m at that point in my life where I’m ready to “take the next” step so to speak and really start investing in my future. I’m focused on my savings and would really like to start a family.

My girlfriend on the other hand has had a very different career trajectory. She has described herself as someone who “doesn’t want to work” and has gone long stretches of time unemployed, having her friends carry her financially . She tends to jump from dead end job to other dead end jobs and has no real skills to provide her with any upward mobility.

She’s been grumbling about quitting her job and complains every single day about it. She was on her final warning at work (given to her last week) so of course last night she decides to pound back multiple shots of tequila. She predictably woke up hung over and sick and subsequently called off work, which her boss explicitly told her if she did she would be fired.

I’m not proud of my reaction but I immediately lost my cool and tore into her. I couldn’t believe how irresponsible she was and how she gave 0 thought into how this would effect us and the burden it would shift onto me. I was even more upset given we have just signed this lease at her insistence.

This has left me feeling like I can’t trust this person with my future and/or my finances. I can’t help but think if I wasn’t lucky enough to make what I make we would have been so screwed and it could have caused long term damage to my credit (eviction). I feel this is a massive red flag and it’s really taken a slice out of my trust for her.

Her mother and her say I should be supportive and she insists she will find another job but this market is hell especially for people with no degree or skills.

Am I overreacting in my contemplation of ending this?

Should I seriously just be supportive and not upset or see this as a MASSIVE deal like her mother suggests?

TLDR: My GF and I moved into a more expensive place. She got drunk and fired from her job and hasn’t helped pay any bills. Contemplating ending things for good.

Submitted March 01, 2021 at 10:31PM by Pretend_Locksmith_83 https://ift.tt/3bWRFIe