So, me and my husband have been married for 3 years. Since the beginning, I cook and he washes the dishes. He vacuums and I do pretty much everything else to do with cleaning.
But lately I've been feeling overwhelmed by the cooking especially. I feel like cooking takes more time, is more difficult and mentally demanding than washing the dishes. I've suggested trading, but he refuses. Says he's not as good a cook as me and would have to cook the same 3 or 4 meals he knows over and over. Well.
With the quarantine my mental health and my sleep schedule kinda got ruined, so I've been waking up 2 hours later than him. AS SOON AS I STEP OUT OF THE BEDROOM, he asks me what we're eating. No time to breathe or effectively wake up. So I told him that has been bothering me.
Today, I stayed in bed a bit longer playing mobile games. He consciously waited one hour and a half. And asked for food. I then expressed once again that I would like to start my day without thinking about cooking immediately. He got defensive. Said he remembered my complaint and waited. I guess he just doesn't understand what I feel.
So I tried explaining, and I mentioned a talk we've had previously about him washing the dishes at set times. I tried to compare it with how much he resisted it and we ended up not doing it because he wanted to wash the dishes when he felt like it. But I don't have that luxury. I HAVE to cook at set times and it's stressing me out.
He got real impatient and tried to act like I was stressed and "piling it up on him" from some freelance jobs I picked up, but that has nothing to do with it. I just really need a break from the pressure of cooking 2 full meals everyday.
What do I do? What can I even propose? I'm exhausted.
TL;DR: I need a break from cooking but my husband is not flexible about changing things up.
Submitted August 01, 2020 at 11:36AM by vewvea https://ift.tt/2XiqiBU
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