I [26/F] haven't seen my ‘husband’ [28/M] in 3 years. His sister [27/F] invited me to her wedding. How can I emotionally prepare for an inevitable confrontation?

My husband and I are separated but I’m still very close to his sister. In April she called to inform me she was going to get married in September and that she wanted me and my son (5M) there. She asked me to be a bridesmaid, but I declined as I didn’t want to risk being around the rest of my in-laws longer than I had to. I tried to tell her I would send my son alone/with his dad, but she said as her best friend I had to come. I don’t want to go, but I’m willing to suck it up for her.

My husband and I separated due to him always working and me feeling abandoned after I had our son. His family (excluding his sister who I knew before we even dated) were also a big factor in our separation and made the whole thing more painful. We share custody of our son, but I haven’t seen him at all in 3 years. He has a nanny pick up and drop off our son. If we need to discuss something about him, it’s done through someone else who works for him. He continues to financially support us, though.

I know seeing him at the wedding is going to be an overwhelming experience and I was wondering if anyone had any tips on how to deal with it?

TL;DR – My SIL is getting married which means I’ll have to see my estranged husband again. We haven’t seen or spoken to each other in 3 years and I’m worried I’ll be overwhelmed by the emotions of seeing him again.

Submitted August 29, 2020 at 03:39PM by ThrowRA201508 https://ift.tt/3bkWoDf