so i just moved to a new city last year pre covid and havent had much opportunity to meet people for friends in the pandemic world.
I met this group of guys i like to go out with thru this person named Chris(30m) as they are all childhood best friends. Chris is a cool guy and actually the type of person to go far out of his way to help you in a bind.
however, chris is the most insecure person ive met and consistently takes it out on all his friends. He is extremely insecure of what ALL women think of him and will lash out at the most inexplicable things.
Some examples:
- we ran into an ex coworker of his in the street, he kept claiming that the two of us had met at this late night dive bar where everyone just gets trashed. She was like no i dont think so. so i just played it off as a joke saying "haha, well its not really the place you go to sober and remember the next day". He went on and on about how badly i made him look because now she is going to think he is a drunk and how bad i fucked him over. that was literally the whole interaction
- There was this group of girls we met like 9 months ago. we hung out with them like 3x's then i just went no contact as wasnt a fan of them. he continued to hang out with for 4 months after i went no contact. then said i had got him kicked out of the group. i ask him what i did, he just snaps on me "it doesnt matter now, get over it, you just fucked me". and he has brought this up like every time i hang out with him for 6 months after. if i really push him to find out what i did, he just gets super upset and says i made some offhand comment about a girl's looks which i dont really believe as i never do that to girls in person, even ones im dating. plus why would they hang out with him for 4 months after if i had gotten him kicked out
- he is really weird about people thinking he might be gay. he blows up at his child hood friends when they say something offhand. and he mentioned to me, that it pisses him off that i have shirtless pic of me at the beach as my insta profile pic as people are going to think he is gay for being my insta friend
honestly, i dont know any other group of guys to go out drinking with and i like the rest of the group. ive tried being understanding that the guy is just an insecure guy, but im starting to feel that this may be too immature and petty for me to deal with and i might just cut contact even if it means spending saturdays alone til after covid restrctions ease up.
anyone been in a similar boat? where you are new to town and it makes it hard to cut off someone since it means youll have no social life lol. or dealing with someone this insecure?
i dont feel like i cant talk to him about this because he is too insecure. his friends have expressed the same to me, where they think he will just go off if we confront him about it
TLDR; in a new city with only one friend group, cant make new ones really due to covid, but one guy in friend group is insecure as fuck
Submitted August 26, 2020 at 09:08AM by loct989 https://ift.tt/2QpkPW7
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