I (25F) have yet to orgasm with my boyfriend (24M) of a year and it’s affecting his self-esteem, should I just start faking it at this point?

I can orgasm by myself 100% of the time manually, and I orgasm during sex with him 80% while also using a vibrator (but he doesn’t take credit for this/or think it counts as him making me O) I’ve also gotten really close from oral and missionary with him... but it’s been a year and I still can’t get “there”.

I know it’s primarily mental for me. I enjoy our sex and he’s so attentive and listens and wants me to “tell him” what will do it for me, but i honestly don’t know... it all feels good! he’s not doing anything wrong! Each time is better than the last but I can’t get out of my head long enough to let it happen.

He’s been so patient and never aggressive or persistent when I say it’s not going to happen. He’s never bitter about me grabbing my vibrator either and welcomes it. He loves to see me get off.

But recently while drinking he kind of broke down about something else and ended up crying and telling me about how much of a failure he feels like that he can’t get me off.

It broke my heart. I told him it’s not abnormal, I hear from so many girls in the same predicament as me. But I don’t think he believes me cause guys don’t share that kinda stuff with each other/lie about it.

I don’t want to lie to him, I’ve been hopeful that eventually I would orgasm and after every time I don’t and I apologize he says “don’t worry, we’ll get there” but I’m not sure we will. Should I just start to fake it for him?

TLDR; I’m not sure I’m ever going to orgasm from my boyfriend alone and it’s hurting his self-esteem, should I just start faking it?

Submitted August 25, 2020 at 05:49PM by eatingketchupchips https://ift.tt/32rO2W7