I dont think my bestfriend will ever find herself in a healthy relationship. I cant stand the men she dates and I'm tired of hearing about them.

At this point, I'm really trying to let her do her thing and stay out of it. But it's so difficult when shes constantly updating me on her relationships. Calling me when shes losing her shit about him, and telling me when they made up. Or just not shutting up about him in regular conversation.

So, before you think I'm being bitter and out of line. My friend here calls me regularly, having full blown panic attacks over this relationship. On occasion it's been so extreme she has thoughts of hurting herself. While I do not blame him for her mental health issues, but the relationship seems to intensify things.

This man has been seeing other women from the start. My friend was aware and tried to accept his polygamous lifestyle. She quickly couldnt accept it, and this has been the biggest issue for my friend. For MONTHS he fed her bullshit saying it would stop. It didnt. And now he says hes "trying" to end things with the other girl but she "wont let him" or whatever. So my friend blames all these problems on the other women.

My biggest issue with the man is that hes 26, and his only work experience is selling weed. He says he wants to get into the legal industry but hasnt made any steps towards that to my knowledge. He cant even pay rent in his moms house on time.

My friend has a degree, a professional job, and a child.

They break up often but they're quickly back together. Longest apparent I've seen them is maybe a week. This relationship is maybe 6 months old and they say they're madly in love and are seriously talking about getting pregnant soon. (She got very upset last time I told her a baby probably isnt the best idea for now).

Also dont want to get into this, but this current boyfriend is better than anyone else I've seen her with in the past. She has a history of abusive situations.

Obviously shes an adult and makes her own decisions. But shes very sensitive and I dont know how to tell her I'm tired of this cycle. I want to support her, but if I give her my 100% honest opinions, it would be harsh, and wouldnt go well. So I'm stuck trying to find a balance of offering my help, while biting my tongue half the time.

I'm starting to feel like this chaotic life is just how things will always be for her. I dont know what shed be like in a "normal" healthy relationship.

I guess I need to talk to her to some extent about how I'm getting very uncomfortable hearing every detail, but want to offer her love and support.

TL;DR my bestfriend is constantly in chaotic relationships and I've nearly given up on her ever being in a normal relationship. Shes currently dating some drug dealer but hey at least hes not abusive. I dont know how to tell her I'm uncomfortable hearing about her situations while still being a good friend. Shes very sensitive to my criticism of the relationship.

Submitted March 25, 2020 at 12:41AM by spicysesame https://ift.tt/3duVMLB