I (30m) wish to have a great relationship with in laws (61m) (60f), but wife (25F) makes it difficult.

Here's some relevant background info: My FIL is incredibly insecure. I mean he's more insecure than a 15 year old teenage girl. He gets offended if I do the dishes, he gets offended if I fix anything around the house. (I don't understand it. I mean it's not even his fucking house lol.)

I'll give an example of my situation.

Currently, my in laws are staying with us. A few weeks ago, my FIL saw me do a training routine with my dog. Part of this routine consists of me making him lay down, walking away and then calling him to me to get his reward.

Ever since my FIL saw me do that routine he's been trying to practice that. One time we were in the kitchen and I'm putting away dishes. My FIL does the routine, but as he walks away, he's walking towards me with his chest sticking out and looks at me dead in the eyes, gets reallll close and says "This is MY routine now." I just laugh it off and shake my head.

When he leaves the kitchen, I look at my wife and says "ok that was really weird". My wife acts like I'm being ridiculous. I ask her again, "what the hell was that about? come on Jane that was kinda weird".

Sometimes I'll do the dishes and he'll walk right up to me, shove his face near mine "YOU'RE DOING THAT BECAUSE YOU DONT THINK I DO A GOOD ENOUGH JOB!?!?" I just look at him in sheer confusion thinking "I'm just washing dirty dishes".

Anyway, these things happen every now and again, but any time I try to bring it up to my wife, she gets mad, sometimes insult me, tells me how I'm just starting shit, I'm trying to cause problems and trying to start arguments with him. I literally don't do anything. I ignore him almost 100% of the time. This time she even said "He's doing that because he's superior to you". I'm just really stunned thinking "lol does she really think this way about me" and I make a joke saying "Are you sure about that? I'm pretty sure a gorilla would ignore an ant the same way I ignore your dad".

Whatever.

So how does this relate to the title? Well, I'd love to have a great relationship with my in laws, but my wife's unsupportive nature just makes me resent them

TL;DR: FIL is incredibly insecure, always tries to challenge me. Almost abusively. Wife is unsupportive and often gets upset if I tell her how I feel. This makes me resent my in laws and also my wife too

Honestly I see how harsh this subreddit is to males, but I just want to vent. Feel free to roast me.

Submitted March 02, 2020 at 03:45PM by Rantpersevere https://ift.tt/32IJScj