I’ve been with my boyfriend for two years. He has serious financial issues. He has unpaid student loan debt, credit card debt, unpaid taxes, and he makes around $20,000 a year. I have not contributed to this debt in any way and he picked all of it up before he met me. He is being garnished because of his unpaid taxes. Because of this, I have paid several utility bills and rent bills. I don’t believe we are living outside of our means. Our expenses are in line with our income and before we moved into the apartment where we live, I asked multiple times if it would be too much money for him and he said that we would be fine.
I make around $24,000 a year. My finances are in very good shape and I have no debt. I do all grocery shopping and meal planning and it makes me panic when he tries to do anything that diverts from this plan because of his dire financial situation. Him going out to eat could be the difference between him paying rent or not. He doesn’t really seem to care about his finances because he thinks he can’t do anything about it but I assert that he doesn’t get to feel that way because he’s in a relationship now and he needs to try to do better.
I love my boyfriend dearly and if this dumb shit would go away everything would be perfect. I don’t know if I should leave him or if it would be unfair to, but I really can’t tolerate a lifetime of throwing money at problems he created. He has somewhere he can live for free but I refuse to live there because I don’t like the environment (constantly being loud at night and throwing parties). I’m partially considering that we should just live separate places while he sorts out his financial issues on his own, and then maybe we live together again after he can prove that they’re sorted.
TL;DR: Boyfriend has serious financial issues, unsure if I should leave him over them or just live separate places.
Submitted February 07, 2020 at 12:22PM by WIBTAdebtthrowaway https://ift.tt/2tFbdz1
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