My partner (M35) and friend were being inappropriate at my birthday party last year and I don’t know what to do.

I had a birthday party last year, everytime I looked for my partner I’d find him cuddling one of my friends, eventually it got a bit too much for me and I asked them to stop, it seemed as if they had.

The next day I told him how much it hurt my feelings and he pretty much put most of the blame on her and we moved on.

Fast forward to the weekend just gone, I went to an event with my girl friends including the cuddling girl, she pulled me to one side to talk to me, said she had been having anxiety about the whole situation and wanted to tell me what happened, she basically said it was all him, he was touching her inappropriately and saying things he shouldn’t be. So I’m obviously furious, have way to much to drink and go home and want answers, eventually after him gaslighting me and trying to manipulate the situation he admits it was mostly him and then tells me things that happened that she didn’t tell me. For example, after I told them I wasn’t happy and I didn’t like what they were doing he went on to take her to a different room to do it there instead so I couldn’t see, What the actual fuck. They were talking about how they always liked each other and how they kissed before we were together (I didn’t know this but he acted like I did) and his hands were all over her ass.

We have 2 daughters together but I’m beyond furious. I feel majorly disrespected, betrayed and hurt. This feels like cheating to me whether they were physical or not. He’s making me feel like I’m making it a big deal and not really validating my feelings.

I’m confused and need some kind of advice.

TL;DR Partner and friend were inappropriate, partner blamed friend and lied now she blames him and I don’t know what to do.

Submitted February 10, 2020 at 02:50AM by Leannimall https://ift.tt/37aMZud