My brother (30M) and his partner (30F?) seem to treat my partner (33M) and I (33F) as if we are some sort of alcoholics

When ever we catch up with my brother and his partner, they always ask us if we're hung over or if we had a big night...

The thing is, I'm not a big drinker these days, so I am starting to get a little offended that they think we are always on it.

In the past I may have had an issue with alcohol dependency, but I have since sorted my shit out. Well before my brother ever hooked up with his partner.

Saturday night I went to a concert with my sister, we went to dinner before hand and I had a mid strength beer with my meal. Since I was driving, I wasn't going to have any more than that - besides these days beer makes me super tired! It was a late night I got home at about 12:30 and had some pain killers for my shoulder and went to bed. The following morning we were due at my brothers place at 9.30am, for my niece's burthday clebrations. We arrived on time, walk in the door and the very first thing they ask me is if I was hung over. Without even knowing what I got up to the previous night - no context as to why I looked like shit. I was tired because of the effects of my pain killers and who the hell has a party at 9:30 in the morning on a Sunday! And the second thing they tell me, without prompting, is that they've got nothing alcoholic for me to drink... 🤦‍♀️

Now idk if they think my pattner and I live some sort of life of debauchery or something because we have a very cruisy work/life balance. But its getting to the point I cant be bothered catching up with them because I don't like being judged that way. We've got nothing to prove or justify to them... or what ever.

Is it wrong for me to be offended that they seem to think we are always hungover/alcoholics. Every time we see them there is some sort of comment made about our lifestyle that they think we seem to live... I don't even want to have to justify/defend ourselves because its a stupid perception they have. I'm not sure if they are living in some sort if fantasy world where they make their life seem perfect by pretending/acting like other people in their family are more messed up than them 🤷🏻‍♀️

Tl;dr: brother an his partner seem to always think my partner and I are always drunk/hung over. Getting pretty fed up with the assumptions. Am I wrong to be offended and how do I approach the situation with them. Its getting to the point Infeel like we beed to take a breatho every time I see them, just to prove we're sober....

Submitted February 09, 2020 at 02:14PM by justluxie https://ift.tt/2OGdykC