My mother is elderly and has not worked in over 30 years. My parents divorced a long time ago and she got this money as part of the agreement. I didn't know about this until a year ago, after I had offered to help her if she needed it.
Back then I had a really good job that paid extremely well, so putting aside some money for her was not an issue. I was laid off 6 months after I made the promise, and had to heavily dip into savings until I landed another job. I took a 20% pay cut because I was pretty desperate.
Not long after, she starts to ask me for financial help, about $1000/month. She's late on her state taxes and she's afraid she's going to get kicked out of the house. I tell her I can't and she needs to use her own money because I'm still recovering from joblessness. After an initial fight, she agrees to use a savings account I set up for her years ago - maybe $20K there.
Now she's starting to complain that my brothers, both in their 40s, should chip in as well. They can barely make ends meet and trying to raise a family of their own; one of them helps a little, the other does not. Still, she "vents" to me that the first brother should get a better job to support her, and the second should start paying up instead of buying a bunch of new stuff for himself (which he did recently, he's got a spending problem).
When I ask her about the $200K account, she says she doesn't want to use it so she can leave us an inheritance when she dies. I tell her we prefer she live well and happily now than to leave us anything later. She disagrees and stubbornly insists it's her last wish as a mother. What the hell should I do?
TL;DR: no money, mom problems
Submitted February 07, 2020 at 06:34PM by throwcreamonface https://ift.tt/38aJpBy
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