I know this sounds bad. I'm trying to figure out HOW bad it is and if we can navigate it. We've been together for 8 years.
We were in a bad spell for several months. A lot of stressors outside of our relationship were at play. Anyway, this is how it went down...
He was in the master bedroom and we'd had an argument. I decided to sleep in the guest room that night. I was in bed and we were texting a bit (basically light arguing via text). I know this is immature but that was the situation. He was getting angry and I was not backing down from my point of view. He was basically saying he had a right to be angry with me because I'd said something very rude. I knew I didn't say anything that bad, so I asked him to tell me what I'd said.
He kept side-stepping this (I know it's because he didn't remember what I'd said, because I hadn't said anything). He said "don't ask me one more time what you said". I was typing at the same time as him, and my final response was "what exactly did I say??"
This threw him into a tizzy apparently. He came into the guest room and stood over me shouting. He was shouting so much that spit was flying out of his mouth. I don't even remember what he was saying because he was SO escalated (totally throwing me off guard as I had no idea he was THAT angry while we were texting). He grabbed my laptop and held it over his head and smashed it on the ground. It put a big mark in the hardwood floor, and obviously it no longer works.
He then left the room (slamming the door). I just sat there in shock. He started texting me about 10 minutes later asking me why I go out of my way to make him so angry. I didn't respond. The next day he didn't say anything about what had happened but handed me his credit card and told me to go get a new laptop.
I know he sometimes has difficulty controlling his anger, and I know from his point of view he obviously felt I was goading him while we were texting (but I wasn't....in reality I thought we were both angry but not furious).
I'm sitting here not knowing what to do now. Things have gone back to normal. But what the heck am I supposed to do here....insist on marriage counselling? Gloss this over and hope it doesn't happen again? He's been mad before (and at times even destructive to things, but never like this).
tldr....partner broke my laptop in a rage that seems disproportionate to the circumstances.
Submitted February 02, 2020 at 08:01PM by EmergencyOnion6 https://ift.tt/37VF2tT
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