I (32F) got broken up with tonight by someone (29M) I thought was gonna go the distance with me tonight, and I guess I just needed to tell someone.

Relationship was 9 months, but it was fantastic. We met on Bumble. He is smart and thoughtful. We had no issues in the relationship to speak of, but for the past few weeks, he’s been noticeably distant, and I brought it to his attention with an email today (I can articulate feelings in writing much better). He’s a major introvert, and has been traveling a lot for work, and him being distant when he’s got anything going on isn’t super unusual. But you can just sense that subtle pulling away in a relationship that was once so close, you know?

Tonight he asked to come over, and said he had been thinking about the email all day and he really appreciated me sending it. He said that I don’t ask for anything unreasonable and have been an easy to be with partner; he thought he was ready to share his life with someone, and he’s just not. He said he keeps thinking that he’s just better off alone, and that he quietly resents the time relationships consume, that was his alone time before, and he recognizes that this is unfair to me.

I asked if we could ever revisit things, if someday we’re both single, maybe we can just get a drink. It’s so hard to not have that hope when it’s so fresh. I just saw him 30 minutes ago and haven’t even had a chance to miss him yet.

If there’s question, I guess it’s to ask how you get through a breakup that is so hard to make sense of. Does anything make it easier?

TL; dr Just got broken up with by the guy I wanted to marry. Easy and good relationship, how can I make this easier?

Submitted November 23, 2019 at 06:52PM by sleepybeta https://ift.tt/2QOxfbt