I'm 34 (f), he's 31 (m), we've lived together for 2 years, been together for 3. We've always had a lackluster love life, we take turns being the low libido partner.
He's always told me he doesn't like pressure; he doesn't like if I come on too strong, if i tell him i want sex at some point in the future, etc. He likes it spontaneous. It just occurred to me after an attempt last night that what he means is he only wants it on his terms, if it's his idea. He's not an asshole about it, if I come on to him, he nicely says that he's not in the mood but he'll help me out. If I turn him down, it's not an issue at all.
Is this even worth bringing up? It's bothering me but I'm not sure exactly why. I would like more sex, but he has a habit of asking me at the same time of night, when I'm never in the mood.
I'm going to try and talk to him about it tonight, but I don't know if this specific thing is worth bringing up.
Tl; dr: boyfriend says he wants sex to be spontaneous, but I'm sure he means on his terms. Is it worth bringing up?
Submitted November 23, 2019 at 10:20AM by Greyroots https://ift.tt/2ODbXuQ
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