My (F/25) boyfriend (M/25) travelled six hours to spend a weekend with his friend (F/25) in my hometown.

For context: - We are in a long distance relationship (6 hours drive). - We’ve been together just over two years. He also had a brief fling with the aforementioned friend. - His friend has made it clear that she doesn’t like me/doesn’t think I’m good enough for him.

So, I hadn’t seen my boyfriend (M/25) in two months (due to both of our work commitments and generally very busy schedules) and then I found out (through a Facebook post) that he had travelled down to my hometown last weekend and had spent the weekend with his friend (F/25). They had gone for food and drinks and then had had a night out, and he stayed over hers two nights.

What upset me was that he hadn’t considered to tell me that he was going to do this, and obviously wasn’t interested in seeing me or bothered that we hadn’t seen each other in so long. He didn’t text me at all over the whole weekend either.

What has also upset me is that he hasn’t ever actually been the one to travel to see me. I have always travelled to see him (we have both moved about a lot and the distances have varied, I have only recently moved back to my hometown).

I can’t believe that he would travel such a long distance to see a friend and not think to ask if I wanted to see him at all. I know that he’s absolutely entitled to see his friends and not me, but I feel like he’s willing to go the extra mile for her and not me. This isn’t the first time that there have been problems with this friend.

I have tried speaking to him about it but he got immediately defensive about it and said I was overreacting and upset over nothing. His ex girlfriend was also very uneasy about his friendship with this girl, and he keeps saying how much I’m reminding him of his ex.

I was cheated on in the past, and didn’t find out until 8 months later, even though all the signs were there, so I’m just worried that I’m making a fool out of myself again.

Am I upset over nothing? Or is it strange that someone would travel to their girlfriend’s hometown to see someone else and not even suggest seeing their girlfriend too? Is there a better way of making him see why I’m upset?

TDLR: I don’t know if I’m overreacting over my boyfriend (M/25) travelling six hours to spend a weekend with his friend (F/25) in my (F/25) homework when I haven’t seen him in two months.

Submitted June 01, 2019 at 11:56AM by iamcardibee http://bit.ly/2QB0qNl