My husband and I have been married since his son was 18. We have younger children living with us also (his/mine/ours). I'm no longer comfortable with my stepson living here but my husband is against kicking him out. I'm really angry at both my husband and stepson at this point and feel trapped in this situation. I'd actually love to hear that I'm overreacting so I can just try to deal with it and move on, so if you see that please say so.
We have had a ton of issues with him, some are household issues, lying, breaking rules etc but some really make me uncomfortable having him around the other kids anymore. At first it was trouble with him going into our younger girls (10-15) rooms at night to talk with them after everyone had gone to bed. Then finding out from my oldest daughter that he was actually coming home drunk and trying to talk to them about his problems. To me he is too old to be leaning on children like that and it really creeped me out to find out he was doing that. I got really upset about it and my husband finally insisted he not go in their rooms anymore.
Then my 11 year old stepdaughter came to us to say she felt uncomfortable around her brother because he had grabbed her shoulders and kissed her on the mouth and she had seen him do the same thing to the 10 year old. My husband confronted him about this and he insisted it was in a joking way both times. The 11 year old very obviously didnt feel like it was a joke and was very nervous telling. I want to give my stepson the benefit of the doubt but I cant just dismiss it as a "joke" either, especially combined with the wierd room thing. My husband told him not to do that again and thinks that everything's fine now because it's been a few months he hasn't done it again. My husband insists they're just an affectionate family.
I do NOT think everything is fine. I worry about the kids constantly at night. I try to avoid him and keep the kids away from him during the day. The 11 year old has become withdrawn and started acting out. I've brought up having stepson move out with my husband many many times and he just wont budge. I'm trying to be understanding but I'm at a point where I'm considering separating from my husband over this.
TL;DR My stepson has concerning behavior, husband thinks it's no big deal but I'm worried and I dont know what to do.
Submitted June 25, 2019 at 05:41PM by Throwaway3456812 https://ift.tt/2FvmXH6
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