Can’t tell if my (24 F) boyfriend(23 M) is being too overly critical, or if I’m being overly sensitive?

Over the past weekend, my boyfriend and I went out with his family to their beach house. I get along very well with his family, and he even left me alone with his family for most of the day while he went golfing with his brother and cousins. (It’s a yearly tradition for the boys to go golfing apparently.)

That was fine, I enjoyed the company of everyone else while they were golfing. Then at dinner we sat next to each other, and my boyfriend and I were talking amongst ourselves. He suddenly interrupted our convo, and chastised me for talking only to him. He said that I needed to branch out better and interact with the rest of the family, because we tend to isolate ourselves and just hang on to each other. He didn’t say it meanly, it was just a very patronizing tone. He also said ‘I just have to keep you focused otherwise you’ll only talk to me and won’t socialize.”

Perhaps I’m being overly sensitive. It would be a valid point if I really had been ignoring his family, but it felt really unfair considering how much of an effort I had been making. I was with them all day socializing while he wasn’t around, and at dinner I even helped walk his very elderly grandmother to the bathroom and helped her in the bathroom stall.

It just felt like a slap in the face to be criticized despite making so much effort. This isn’t the first time he’s been critical of me. There have been other times where he has been patronizing, and it just makes me feel uncomfortable and angry.

TL;DR: boyfriend criticized me for not making an effort with his family at a family dinner, even though I felt I was going above and beyond to socialize. This isn’t the first time he’s criticized me in patronizing ways about things like this. I know we both need to have a discussion first, and perhaps I’m being overly sensitive, but this behavior is making me rethink the whole relationship. Any advice/feedback is appreciated

Submitted June 25, 2019 at 11:10AM by patchofproblems https://ift.tt/2Y8R26t