I think a friend (27f) might be suffering from some sort of mental problems, is this something I can approach this person with?

This might sound weird but, I have a close friend who's told me things about herself that makes me think she has some serious problems. I know she has in the past, she's had a history of eating disorder, self-harm, anxiety and depression (she has never seen anyone about this) but, she usually says that those things are so much better now. However, some things she said recently makes me think that this is not the case. She has told me that she is extremely afraid of being rejected, and it's something she wants to avoid at all costs. She thinks that people in general can't be relied upon and that they will hurt or abandon her. She apparently feels like she does not fit in or does not belong even in her group of friends, and that people are just being nice to her while secretly disliking her. She says that she often feels worthless, as well as feeling very lonely and empty at times, as well as how she feels like she's not allowed to feel certain emotions. And she has said several times that she just causes pain for people and that she should just stay away, that she is bad. I think these feelings are affecting her actions in a major way as well. I've got the impression that one of the main motivations behind many of her goals in life is to be "cool enough" to fit in, which seems like a very poor reason to do something.

It just makes me very sad because she is genuinely a great person and already someone people like to hang out with and be around. I've tried telling her this but I can tell it's really no use. Hearing her say all this (especially all at once) is making me really worried, its got me thinking that it's a lot worse than what I thought. Is this something I can approach her with? I don't want to come of as if I'm attacking or insulting her in any way, but I could see why someone would get defensive if confronted like this.

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TL;DR: How can I talk with my friend about the fact that she has some very unhealthy thoughts?

Submitted June 25, 2019 at 02:52AM by WooopBoop http://bit.ly/2J5pmct