My (46m) wife (40f) has just left me after only one year of marriage because she has lost the spark. Is this a normal reason to just walk out?

My wife and I got married just one year ago after being together for 2 years. It was our second marriage each and not one taken lightly - we were both so confident that we had each met the right person. We have 2 kids each from our previous marriages. The kids all love each other.

Everything was wonderful. She was very much in love with me and vice versa. We met at a time that she was probably emotionally fragile but in the years we were together she grew stronger and more independent.

Unbeknownst to me, she was struggling in the last few months with the idea that she was no longer attracted to me, but sees me as her best friend. We love each other so much, but the fireworks were missing. I am attracted to my wife, but not so much in return. During that time, she started developing feelings for other men.

Breaking the news to me was a bombshell. I had no idea it was coming... thinking we were happily married, although in retrospect we were maybe getting too comfortable and complacent in the relationship. Within a week, she moved out and after some counselling, it seems that she is well and truly unwilling to return to the marriage.

It's been very hard for both of us. She still loves me and cares for me, and feels terrible guilt for hurting me. She said I tick 9 out of 10 boxes as a partner, but the only thing missing is that spark. After 3 years together.

Has anybody been in this situation, and do you think it is recoverable? I love this woman so much but am having trouble understanding this breakup only 1 year after getting married.

TL;DR. My wife has left me after one year of marriage because of a lack of spark. No other reason. Is this normal, and should I feel hard done by?

Submitted June 25, 2019 at 08:29PM by McMayhem27 https://ift.tt/2X9vQRm