We were married for 16 years and we have an 11 year old son. My husband made some terrible financial decisions and we ended up losing our house. He also lost his job, got depressed and decided to leave me (that was 3 years ago).
I was working, so I rented a very small, modest apartment for myself and my son. My husband moved in with his brother. Despite everything, he was still a good father to our son (who has some special needs). He was also very very helpful to me.....if he ever scraped together some extra money he would buy us groceries. He still visited and helped our with my elderly parents (I'm an only child). He drove our son to and from school. He helped me with things around the apartment. Even though we were apart, I never felt alone.
Last summer, completely and utterly unexpectedly, my job was made redundant. I went on unemployment insurance (which has since recently run out). Since I lost my job I have applied for jobs daily. I network. I cold call. I have even gone on some interviews, but I haven't found a job. Believe me, I'm not picky anymore at all. I'm willing to accept a lesser job....doesn't matter. I have people in my industry look at my resume. It doesn't matter.
My ex husband (I call him that even though we aren't formally divorced) has struggled with finding/holding a job since he left. He has now decided he can't stay here anymore. He thinks his depression will improve if he moves across the country (literally) to live with another family member. He also thinks he'll have better luck getting a job.
I've tried talking to him. He is adamant that this is what he needs to do. Keep in mind, he can't even offer any real support as he isn't even working right now. He says he will come back at least every second month to see our son.
I feel utterly and completely alone and abandoned. I can't find a job. My elderly parents are both ill and I feel very ill equipped to deal with them alone. My savings are quickly running out. I don't even have a car (he let me use his). I have no real friends anymore (I've always been an introvert and I just suck at making friends in general). I can't even believe he is leaving, but he is.
I am honestly terrified. I sit up half the night crying, scared out of my mind. I can't believe he's leaving us. And going with him is not an option (we aren't together, the family member has no room, and my ex husband hasn't asked us to anyway....plus I need to look after my parents). I'm so depressed that I find it hard to function, let alone find a job. And if I do, I'm not sure how I'll get there and get my son to school with no vehicle.
Has anyone else felt completely abandoned by a partner, and how did you cope?
TLDR: (ex) husband is leaving me all alone and jobless to care for our 11 year old special needs son....with no support (as he has no income).
Submitted June 24, 2019 at 05:27PM by BothOutlandishness7 http://bit.ly/2ZObyK5
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