My girlfriend and I have been dating for about 8 months now. We have pretty much been together since we met and things hit off pretty quickly. We’re moving in together in 2 weeks and things have been really hectic.
Here’s some of the things that have been happening recently:
- I get accused of cheating with a male coworker (I’m not homosexual). I took a day off when I didn’t really need to and my boss seemed pissed so I wanted to get started on my work early so my day would be less stressful. I’ve gone to work early multiple times in the past so I could get a head start on my day. Performance at my job is critical and I have deadlines to meet.
- I had to promise her I would change my barber because she is female. On top of this, I’ve had to change my haircut to make sure it doesn’t attract too much attention.
- I get compared to her ex husband constantly because she was with him for such a long time and that if I loved her, I would do the same things he did.
- I can’t keep track of my own finances because I shouldn’t be “counting” everything I do for her.
- I have to sneak a screen shot of everybody I go out to lunch with to prove to her I’m not cheating.
- I can’t wear certain clothes to work because she thinks I’m trying to impress somebody. They’re just regular button up shirts and I work with a bunch of guys. One girl who’s there half the time. So I end up wearing the same clothes over and over. Mind you, she just got breast implants and has a very unique look to her.
Ok this could go on and on. But it’s been affecting me mentally and it led to me drinking pretty aggressively and saying some pretty shitty things to her. Nowadays I don’t even know how to communicate with her. Anything I say or do triggers her jealous, paranoia, anger. I’m walking on egg shells all the time so I just keep quiet. There’s so much negativity that I don’t know how to keep up. Lately, she’s been upset that I lied about drinking. I drank because our fights got so bad she took out a knife, started beating herself on the head, etc. I drank to escape all the pain in the relationship and because I’ve been depressed. She blames me that I just wanna go out and get fucked up and escape my problems and I’m not being a man about it. I think she’s partly right that I want to escape. But I don’t go out seeking other women like she frames it out to be. I’ve stopped going out altogether because of our relationship already. I don’t go out anymore so she can be at work in peace and not have to worry about where I am or what we’re doing. I had half my phone book erased just to give her peace of mind.
Now don’t get me wrong, she has helped me through some really hard times and I do love her but now I keep questioning whether this is all really worth it. I don’t want to leave her hanging because I think she’s great but at the same time I don’t know if I can keep dealing with this all. I just need some help. She refused therapy after I’ve suggested it a bunch of times. She thought it was offensive for me to even consider that. Can anyone help here? I feel like I don’t think clear headed here. Am I wrong for thinking I signed up for this but now I don’t want it?
TL;DR
Jealous/paranoid gf is starting to take a toll on me. Don’t know what to do anymore.
Submitted June 02, 2019 at 01:44PM by anonthrowaway651 http://bit.ly/2JRrAPn
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