I’m 34(F) and My friend of 8 years – 36(F), single, only child –hasn’t been heard from in 8 months. She has a large group of friends who are more like family – all professionals in their 30s and 40s – who also haven’t heard from her.
For context: She’s private about the intimate details of her relationships with her parents and romantic partners, she’s very social and connected to her friend.
She calls her mom by her first name, her dad is former military, and she supports them financially. They seem to have a decent relationship as she used to visit her parents regularly and they would visit her too.
She was going through stress with a job she eventually quit and had recently lost a cousin that was more like a sibling than a distant relative.
Where things get strange:
She’s gone dark on all social since December (not typical).
We’ve gone by her place multiple times across months and no answer. It seems like no one is there.
After we hadn’t heard from her for a month a friend called her mom asking if she was okay.
Her mom seemed secretive but said she sees our friend every other week and she’s fine but unsure of why she hasn’t reached out.
We check in with her mom once a month at this point and she gives us a similar response.
We thought maybe she was at a Psych facility but that seems less likely the longer she’s MIA.
Her mom won’t give us any information and we just want to know for sure that she’s okay…we’ll leave her alone after that if she wants.
She doesn’t have fly by night friendships, they are all 5-30 year relationships. She was in some of our weddings and is like and aunt to some of our kids.
Her last text to one friend she talks to everyday and is very close to her 12yo daughter was, “I’m tired”
To other friends she said by text she’s going offline for a bit.
I don’t think she would have completely disappeared off the face of the earth and not made contact with anyone. She would know we’d be worried and would at least send one of us signs of life.
We checked jail records and I’m checking death records.
Are we being paranoid?
Is my plan to threaten her mom for more info too much?
Should we wait to take further action?
What would you all do or want your friends to do?
TL:DR! My friend hasn’t been heard from by anyone other than (allegedly) her parents in 8 months. We’re all worried. Mom won’t give us much info. Should I threaten her mom with police investigation or just let it go?
Submitted June 29, 2022 at 07:12PM by WerkitMom https://ift.tt/KUoYaSn
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