My husband’s love language is touching me, er, groping me. Sometimes he will come up behind me and just hold me, but more often than not it’s accompanied by a crotch caress, boob grab, etc. I am not turned on by this, and for me to want to be turned on, I need the non-sexual intimacy first, not this abrupt groping.
I have tried telling him I just want the intimacy of non sexual touching, but he doesn’t get it. Today, I told him this version of affection makes me feel objectified. He got so pissed he had to leave the room. Objectified was the best way I could communicate it.
Now, all day, he’s refused to touch me and is standoffish when I try and touch him. This is alarming to me. It’s like if he can’t be intimate in a sexual way, he doesn’t want to be intimate at all.
Am I going about this the wrong way? How can we meet in the middle?
TL;DR My husband doesn’t seem to differentiate between romantic intimacy and sexual intimacy
Submitted June 12, 2022 at 09:15PM by DistractedIdealist https://ift.tt/iKoMyTz
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