I want to preface this by saying that I know I have extreme anxiety and commitment problems myself as a result of past traumas. I'm working through these things wifh my therapist, but with regards to this situation I'm not sure if it is just my anxiety or if I truly have something to worry about.
I'm on a throwaway, as he has reddit.
My boyfriend and I live together. We've been dating for a little over two years. We have a pet together. We have thoroughly tied our lives together.
However, he switched jobs. As it comes with any job switch, you tend to make friends. However, he's become quite close to this woman. We will call her K. While I do not ever want to discourage him from making friends, and in fact, I wished that he would make more friends, this friendship between my boyfriend and K is taking a strange turn.
He first brought up K and called her his "work wife" to my face while talking about her. They text, constantly. He is showing an active interest in her interests when much of K's are the same as mine and he couldn't have been bothered to show or share interest in mine when I brought them to him a while ago.
Additionally, he plays into my insecurities consistently by teasing. He says he simply enjoys to tease but it is getting to the point where I no longer feel secure in my relationship.
I have previously talked to him about this. I explained that the term work wife made me uncomfortable. He responded that he was just excited to have made a friend as it can be difficult for him.
But two weeks later, we're back into this same pattern.
What kills me is that I don't know what they talk about, I don't feel comfortable looking through his things and sometimes I would just rather not know, but on the other hand I'm being eaten up by not knowing.
TL;DR: My boyfriend and his "work wife" are constantly chatting with one another. Normally I'd have no problem but he seems to take a more vested interest in her interests than my own. I'm curious on how to approach a now second conversation.
Submitted August 24, 2021 at 06:44PM by anxiousandunlucky https://ift.tt/3Bb9iiF
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