I(29M) dating with a guy (27M) for 9 months and when I met his dad(53M) last week ,he is the guy I hung out(full of nsfw activities) in a cruise for 3 weeks 7 years ago.

First of all,I am from EU and medical school is direct after high school and it is for 6 years.

Me and my BF met 9 months ago in a bachelor party of his cousin(29M) who was also my roommate at medical school.He was definitely my type and we hit it off after the bachelor party and dating then since.My BF is doing his postdoc in our neuroscience department and I am a newbie specialist(pediatric surgeon) in our hospital. I just finished my residency 2 months ago.

Due to COVID and our work schedules,I never met his dad and all I know is his name(a real common name-surname combination,I know at least 15 people besides him) and he retired this year from his job(he was a maths teacher).

Last week,before national lockdown we have gone to his hometown to meet his dad and when he opened the door, I froze. It was the guy who I had met in a cruise and he recognized me in the instance but we played cool and managed to shrug under the blanket for the time of visit.

After the first day,when we managed to stay alone we talked about it and it wasn't a problem for both of sides but I don't know what ever my BF will say about the issue. We have turned to our place and since the national lockdown announced,my BF is staying with me and it is becoming an issue because he can sense there is something bothering me.I know his dad did not tell anything because he would burst on me(he is not the type to hold his feelings inside) and I am his first serious relationship and I have to say that I still think about his dad time to time.He was the one who helped me to get over my inhibitions and was like a daddy in that sense(We had a dad-son fetish) and even though I do not have any thoughts of initiating anything,I reminisce our memories still.My BF also does not know that his dad is into guys and he is a widow since 2003(my BFs mom died in a traffic accident)

I need really solicit advice and thoughts on how to bring up the topic and his dad wants me to bring out the topic.

TL;DR:I(29M) am dating a guy(27M),his dad(53M) is one of my ex hookups on a cruise and I need help on how to talk about this.His dad is also not out and wants me to have the talk.

Submitted November 04, 2020 at 10:59AM by throwRAdaddyismyex https://ift.tt/34WCvjY