He says I’m crazy for feeling upset over something that is “completely normal”..

My bf (M22) and I (F22) have been together for 2 years. A lot of this time he has been gone because he works out of town since he’s illegal and can’t find a decent paying job here in our city. I’m in school so I can’t leave with him but I’m usually the understanding, supporting girlfriend. And when I say supportive I mean like I would help him with money when things got rough, I would help him with a small business he had, etc. I don’t say this to rub it in his face but honestly, I feel like he doesn’t go the extra mile for me. We just made 2 years together and because he was out of town, we couldn’t spend the day together. Totally understandable. That Saturday I went over to his house and prepared a surprise in his room. I spent over $400 in gifts and I had even made him a spooky basket for Halloween. He showed up really late Saturday so we didn’t even end up having the fancy dinner, which I totally understand.

So he’s back to working away this week and last night we had an argument. I try to never complain but my feelings were really hurt. We hadn’t talked much all day and I was waiting for us to talk on the phone at night and he told me he wanted to go to bed instead. I didn’t go off on him or anything, all I said was that I feel like we no longer get time for each other. He starts going off on me saying that I shouldn’t feel this way over something so normal. He really sat there and said “I thought we were done with this drama” and so much more and I told him that it wasn’t necessary to use explicit language and that I would not put up with it and he said “well then don’t” and I ended hanging up. We haven’t talked today but I’m just confused. I’m tired of him dismissing my feelings but it gets to the point where I start thinking if I’m the one who is wrong.

TLDR: BF of 2 years always dismisses my feelings. I’m tired of being the loving, understanding girlfriend and him not putting the same effort. But when I tell him how I feel, he starts getting defensive and talking mess.

Submitted November 04, 2020 at 08:08AM by throwaway1083829 https://ift.tt/2Gst5TZ