We’ve been together a year and a half. We’re looking at apartments together for the first time and in short, it has been very unpleasant.
He’s always been a huge (self admitted) cheapskate, but now he’s asking me to compromise on things like central air (we live in the southern US) and safe neighborhoods.
He’s also made it clear he won’t buy any luxuries (TV, coffee maker, bed frame, decorations, kitchenware) because he can “easily do without it”. His claim is, if I’m the one who can’t, i should have to pay.
He makes about 60k, and i only make 15k until next year when I finish grad school. He insists that he’ll only match what I can put up, and is actually trying to whittle me down on what I’m willing to spend on rent— he wants a one room studio with shared laundry. I think living in one room with another person is a recipe for disaster.
If I have to buy our bed (i will NOT sleep on a mattress on the floor), our television, and our entire kitchen, plus put up extra money for an appropriately sized apartment, I think I’ll resent him so much i won’t be able to see straight.
At the same time I understand why he wouldn’t want to buy things he doesn’t give a shit about using. He claims he’s going to try and dumpster dive all of these items before I have to buy them.
TLDR: my boyfriend is a tightwad and idk how to live with that. Any other couples who struggle with financial differences?
Submitted August 01, 2020 at 06:30PM by SoftBlussh https://ift.tt/3hXsarN
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