This is a throwaway.
I’ve (29F) been in a relationship with my husband (38M) for a little over 8 years. We have full legal and physical custody of my step daughters. (13F) and (15F). We also have a daughter together (3F). My husband has developed an anger problem. Or maybe he’s always had it and I’m finally realizing how toxic things are, honestly I don’t know at this point. Tonight he exploded on my step daughter (13yo) for taunting the 3 yo with her lollipop while he was trying to fix a closet door. He screamed so loud my 3 yo daughter began to cry and said “too loud daddy”. I took her from the room immediately and put her in our room, and went to walk out to confront him to which I witnessed him kick our dog hard enough for the dog to fall over and yelp. He blamed the dog for getting into the trash.
I was absolutely dumbfounded. He has never hit any of us, this was the first time I’ve witnessed him be violent with another living being. He then goes on to explain how this was our older two daughters fault for always being so ungrateful, for being hateful, for being brats and how they can’t just act right. He said he just wants to send them back to live with their bio mom because this is all their fault. I haven’t said much of anything at this point as I’m still replaying in my head what I’ve witnessed.
I want to take my daughter and leave, but here’s where I’m stuck- my step daughters and I are so incredibly close. They call me mom. They are absolutely my daughters in every way shape and form except by blood. Their bio mother lost custody years ago due to abusing them and drug use and if they go back to her they’re fucked. If I leave my husband, they’re stuck with him and they’re fucked that way too. I feel like I’m all they have. But I have no rights to them legally, as I’m just a step mom.
What the fuck am I supposed to do? Take my daughter and run and leave them? I feel so fucking trapped and don’t know what to do. I feel like my youngest daughter is being raised in chaos. Shit, my two older ones are too. This is just one scenario of many where he loses his cool and screams, slams doors, or throws a tantrum. Everytime I try to approach him about it’s he turns it around and says “yeah everything is all my fault. You and no one else in this family do anything wrong but me.”
Tl;dr: my husband just got physically violent with our dog for the first time and I want to leave, but don’t know how.
Submitted August 02, 2020 at 05:39PM by PenaltyEvening https://ift.tt/33ix5zp
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