Hey y'all,
My last thread got pretty minimal interaction but I wanted to post a quick update here.
The morning after I posted here, she reached out to me and we talked for several hours about some rather heavy mental health, work and roommate issues. Additionally, she was self aware enough to realize she's "treating (me) the way (her) Mom treated her Dad" and that she knew if she continued to ice me out I wouldn't stick around.
I vaguely knew she had some issues at work but I had the impression they were way less than they actually are (since she doesn't like to discuss stressors). Last week, she got a paycut and hours cut down to 20/wk. On the day of our most recent date, when she asked to go home as soon as we got out.
I've learned that when she's /really/ stressed her response is to more or less shut down and withdraw inwards. The less she communicated, the more anxious she would get that I would leave and so she was trying to distance/brace herself for that... By making that reality more likely.
Overall tho, I think things are good and over the past few days it seems like things are slowly returning to normal. Time will tell whether this actually works out for us, but I am happy I didn't listen to the folx who advised I dumped her. I'm rather happy/surprised that she reopened the dialogue we used to have.
Tl;Dr the morning after I posted this she opened a serious line of dialogue about mental health. We process stress differently and she's been worried about how I would react if I knew what she was dealing with
Submitted February 05, 2020 at 01:06AM by elucidianDream https://ift.tt/2vKRlei
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