So let me just preface by saying that my husband is a wonderful, sweet, caring one. He does his share around the house and is always sweet to me. We don’t argue much but every day after dinner, he has to take a nap. Sure, it might not be a huge deal. I understand he’s tired and he works like the rest of us. He has an office job that’s pretty chilled. He has had problems in the past with depression and anxiety but he insists that for the most part, he is mentally sound. From what I can see, I agree. We have been together for 3 years and I’ve seen him depressed. Of course, I know there isn’t just one way depression manifests himself. But he said he’s happy when I ask. I’m trying to be an understanding wife.
He also doesn’t feel like being intimate w me... hardly ever. We have been together 3 years, yes. However we have been long distance for 2.5 of those years. We got married 6 months ago and I’ve finally gotten to move over to him. This has been so exciting except when I got here... no sex. Then a week goes by. Then a month. We have sex one time. And now it’s been another month. In 3 months... 2 times. I thought he’d be excited to finally be together. I asked him if somethings wrong or if he’s not attracted to me. He says “don’t be silly, I wouldn’t marry you if you weren’t!” He says he just doesn’t feel like it or isn’t in the mood. But my needs are not being met and it also makes me feel like somethings wrong with me. Why don’t I turn him on anymore? :( I try to spice things up or tell him I want him and he just doesn’t want it. Maybe I should stop mentioning it.
I also brought up the napping. He says “if I wanna have a little nap, I will.” But after dinner is finished he sleeps for 2 hours. Then I get an hour with him and then it’s time for bed. I just want my husband to spend time with me. When he is up, he is on his phone a lot. Just twitter and general browsing. But I feel like we worked so hard for me to get here and now I’m here I’m a little disappointed. I want to be understanding but I tell him how I’m feeling and he assured me it’s nothing to do with me. Idk am I being crazy? How do I speak to him without him thinking I’m just complaining about him?
TL;DR I’m not sure why my husband doesn’t feel like being intimate with me when I’ve tried to ask him why- he says there isn’t a reason, he just isn’t in the mood. What about my needs?
Submitted February 04, 2020 at 12:08PM by Nanny247 https://ift.tt/2ttywvp
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