My daughter has been dating this guy (27M) for roughly a year before getting engaged to him. At first I liked the guy, and could see that she was happy with him. But the more time passed by, the more isolated she became. She had stopped talking to her childhood friends as well (2 guys we have seen grow up). She is away for college and her mother and I would often call her but we've noticed that she'd pick up the phone less and less. The times she would, she'd often look tired/sickly and sometimes she would look like she was on the verge of tears, if not crying. Last summer we were all invited by his family for dinner and he basically threw a fit because an old acquaintance of hers had talked to her and she didn't notify him because apparently she has to notify him each time a man talks to her. I decided to cut it short and drove us all home and advised her to break up with him, but she didn't want to. Her mother said to let them deal with things on their own. I let them be. But recently she flew home running away from him because he had verbally abused her and had thrown a remote control at her during a fight (thankfully didn't hit her) because she refused to give him her phone to deep search as he'd accuse her of deleting things despite checking her phone regularly and requiring that she puts it off silent so he can hear it whenever someone contacts her. I asked her why she was still with him and she said that she loved him and that she was hoping he'd change if she proved him that she is worthy of trust because he would always tell her that she needs to gain his trust. I decided to take the matter into my own hands and called his father to break their engagement off as I am not willing to wait until he physically hits her, or worse, kills her. I think he is a manipulative narcissist and I'm not willing to take any chances. If he treats her this way when I'm alive, what will he do to her when I die?
I'm not sure what I can do to help her as we live in completely different continents. It's been a little over 3 weeks now and she's still heartbroken over it. I'm afraid she might build resentment towards me because of this.
TL;DR I broke my daughter's engagement off because I'm worried for her safety and well-being. I'm not sure what I can do to help her move on and prevent her from getting back with this guy.
Submitted February 05, 2020 at 07:27PM by Particular_Orchid https://ift.tt/2S0gydA
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