In order for this story to make sense, I'm going to have to give you a little background. My girlfriend and I have been together for years. She works in PR, but her last job, though the pay was pretty good, had no room for growth. She was there for probably 4 1/2-5 years and she quit a little over a year ago because our son was due in mid December and she thought it would give her the perfect amount of time to bond with him and find the "perfect" job.
After about three months, I noticed she's not really happy staying at home and interviews she has gone on for higher level jobs (executive, etc) aren't really going well. So I encourage her to take apply for a job at a place relatively close to our house, making a lot less money, but a ton of growth potential. She reluctantly agrees and gets offered the job on the spot. She comes home and tells me she still isn't sure this is the right place for her and she thinks it's a step back. Again, I encourage her until she finally takes the job.
She ends up loving the job. She made new work friends right away and over time, they became real friends. One of them is a 24 year old named Steve (not his real name). They'd call and text each other a lot (same with several of her other work friends), they had a work group chat, would hang out some weekend nights for dinner and drinks (all her co workers who were friends).
About four months ago, she starts getting really distant and weird. I tried to talk to her about it, but she tells me it's just work and she has a lot on her plate. We had sex with each other once in the last five months.
I try to support her, but it ends up backfiring in my face and causing arguments about petty stupid stuff.
Our son's first birthday was right before Christmas. We celebrated it the Sunday after. She again is weird, moody and distant. She ruined his birthday. All our friends and family were there. She ends up leaving telling me I'm hounding her and she needs air.
I don't know what to do at this point. I let her go. I tried calling and texting her for hours. Nothing. Her parents and siblings. Same thing. No one can get a hold of her. Finally at around 11 pm (this all happened around 3-4ish in the afternoon) she comes home and tells me it's just not working out anymore. I'm dumbfounded and start asking questions. She again tells me it's all my fault and I'm making her crazy and this just isn't working and she's going to her parents for a while. So she leaves. I let her go figuring she needs time to cool off.
I'm able to figure out from talking to her mom, she's not really there. The next day I call and text her many times throughout the day and hear nothing. At this point, in my mind I think something is going on, but I don't think it's cheating. I think she's either in danger or having a break down.
About a week passes with every little interaction from her, just to drop the baby off with her mom so she can see him because she doesn't want to see me. I tell her parents I'm worried about her and think something is going on and they agree.
I'm assuming she told them before telling me, but long story short after about two weeks of this crazy stuff going on, she agrees to meet me at a coffee shop. I immediately ask her if she's ok and if she needs help.
She proceeds to tell me, she's been sleeping with Steve for months and she's pregnant. I was in complete shock, walked out, and cried in my car.
It's been several weeks and I still feeling completely devastated by this and I think she's living with him. I'm trying to co parent with her, but I hate her. I don't want our son in his apartment. I know I need to contact a lawyer, but this is all so new to me. Anyone have advice?
I'm hoping this is clear. I'm crying as I write this, but it also feels good to get everything off my chest. So if you have any follow up questions, I'll answer to the best of my ability. Also, sorry this is so long.
TL;DR: Girlfriend cheated on me and is pregnant by her co-worker. I don't know what to do next. We have a one year old.
Submitted February 01, 2020 at 09:14PM by AsleepWinter https://ift.tt/3b5xaYU
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