My (f38) OH (m36) always changes his mind when it comes to big decisions. Now he wants to change our baby's name. Advice needed.

So my (f38) OH (m36) has a really frustrating habit of changing his mind once we've made a major devision. It's not just a case of - oh I dont like it anymore. He obsesses over it and makes my life miserable in the process.

Backstory- First big example - we put an offer on a house. He changed his mind for a few valid reasons so we pull out. Second big example- we put an offer on another house. He started complaining about a few things but they weren't really big reasons so we went ahead. Ever since we've moved in, he's complained and moaned and made me feel guilty for moving in (NO-ONE understands where he's coming from - the house is lovely). However when i tell him to find a new house that HE likes, he never pulls through. He's shown me nothing in 2 years yet still complains about this house as though theres something better out there.... Many other little examples like buying furniture we agree on, paint colour of the walls that we've chosen - he then complains ahout it all thr time and says he wishes we could replace. He recently bought a new car and went through a similar pattern with that.

Now onto today's problem - we had a baby last week. It had taken us ages to think of a few names we both liked and we finally agreed on a name 2 days after he was born. I absolutely love it. He had some doubts but said as long as I love it then he would love it (as I went with his fave name for our first baby). I said fine lets wait - theres no rush to name him. Let's make sure OH is happy first before deciding 100% and announcing it. He says he's happy, let's announce.

We told everyone, everyone loves loves loves it. I call our baby it over and over. What happens next?? You guessed it! A couple of days ago he told me he's changed his mind. I asked him to please try to accept it. Today he told me he cant.

Now if this was the first ever time he'd changed his mind,, perhaps I'd be more sympathetic. But I'm SO frsutrated by the constant emotional rollercoaster of his decision making. I cracked. I called him names and I unleashed my anger. He called me abusive. He was probably right. I dont know where to go from here. He frustrates me so much. I am running out of patience with him.

Do I change our baby's name to something HE prefers but I dont? Or do I tell him we're sticking and then put up with his complaining for the next few years of our bubs life!??

Tl;dr My (f38) OH (m36) always changes his mind when it comes to big decisions. Now he wants to change our baby's name after we both agreed on it and have told everyone. I LOVE the name. He doesn't really have an alternative yet. What do we do?

Submitted November 24, 2019 at 01:50PM by Nicdotp112 https://ift.tt/34tC3ac