Am I (29f) wrong to think my husbands of 6yrs(31m) online friendship with (F23) is bordering on emotional cheating?

Brace yourselves, this one will be a long one. I never thought I'd feel the need to post on here for advice. Obligatory throwaway account.

A bit about my husband. He is a loving, caring kind hearted soul. We've been married for 6 years and before this, I never had a reason to feel so insecure.

My husband is a big gamer, I play a bit here and there. I got us into playing WoW. It was great in the beginning, we bonded and had a blast. About 3 months ago he made some close friends. All female. I was fine with it, I talked to one of them regularly as well. The problem is, in the last month, he's gotten extremely attached to one of them (22f)I began feeling excluded and allowed myself to get really insecure and upset. It got worse when he began to message her through a messaging app outside of the game. They talk from morning to bedtime. He says she's like a sister to him.

One night, I accidentally saw a conversation he was having with her, I was laying by his side and his phone was by his face. He called her "My love" I freaked out. I told him I was very uncomfortable with that, that it hurt me to hear him calling someone else that because I could never imagine saying that to a close male friend. It crosses a boundary for me.

We talked, I cried (I'm a very emotional person and cry too easily) and he agreed he would not call her 'my love' or say something as meaningful as that to her.

So time progressed, he continued his daily talks. I continued to grow more insecure and depressed. 2 weeks, I again broke down, told him I felt excluded, he'd been doing things in the game without me. He promised to include me more in the game. He has included me which I appreciated. I even got to talking to the girl more.

She is very attached to him and gets depressed when he doesn't reply to her messages fast enough. He then gets upset that she's upset and it's clear he's emotional over it. Two nights ago, I once again broke down. She is too attached to him and he is too close to her. It seems like its bordering on an emotional relationship. I thought we had it sorted around. He told me he hates seeing me upset, he wants only me, he married me because he loves me. He said all the right things. I felt reassured. I even felt like I was being overly insecure. Like I should apologize for my constant insecurity and sadness.

Tonight, I looked at his account to add something for our party, and saw he had called her love and has told her that they click so well. Who knows what else he's said.

I am torn. Reddit, please tell me I'm not getting upset for no reason. I don't want him to lose his friendship but this closeness, is bordering on emotional cheating? Am I wrong to think so?

I love my husband and would always seek to work things out, but what are my options?

Ask him to stop talking to her?

Ask him to limit any romantic words?

Would it be wrong of me to ask to view their chat history?

I have a history of depression and this is dragging me right down. I hate feeling like this.

If you've read all this, thank you.

TL;DR - Husband has a close online friend he talks to all day and night. I am very uncomfortable with it and he doesn't seem to understand and don't know what to do.

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Edit: I've talked with my husband. He's agreed his friendship is unhealthy and we'll be talking more on it. He'll also be reading these posts.
I want to thank all of you who replied. I have friends, but none that I am emotionally connected to that I felt I could open up to about this. Once or twice I thought about reaching out to a friend for words of advice, but I was too afraid to drag them into this and making them a part of our "drama." I've been a reddit user for years and have always browsed this subreddit, so this is where I felt like I could be heard and receive some honest advice.

Submitted October 03, 2019 at 01:38AM by Torn_apart19 https://ift.tt/2oPRf1u