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My [25/F] best friend [26/F] bailed on my wedding day

I was planning on getting married next year, but my mom suddenly became very sick, very fast, and it doesn’t look like she will be able to attend my wedding for next year. It’s been a very hard summer. My fiancé (now husband) decided it would be a good time to get married now, while her pain is not as bad, and she is able to walk. Because of such short notice, I didn’t invite many people, because I didn’t think anyone would come. I was lucky that many of my family across the country came to attend my fast-tracked wedding. It was a very intimate ceremony with close friends and family.

My best friend was always super excited about my wedding planning, and had always told me she would be there for me. Recently, she had started dating this new guy, who turns out to be not very good for her. He had lied and cheat in the short time they were together, breaking up 3 times in 6 months. Anyways, when I told her about the wedding, she said she wants to go, but she might go out of town with her boyfriend instead. She told me she didn’t want to go though, that she had been to that city a lot and it was more of a business trip for the boyfriend (she didn’t book or commit to Any reservations). On top of this, she was tired of the boyfriend and was planning on breaking up with him in October. I was pretty disappointed because it seemed like a lame excuse. She ended up not attending.

She broke up with her boyfriend the day after my wedding because she caught him talking to other girls. I feel like it’s pretty immature of me to feel this way, but the more I think about how come she didn’t attend the wedding, the more upset I become. I feel really sad and disappointed that my best friend didn’t come, because she wanted to tag along for a free trip out of town, instead of celebrating this (hopefully) once-in-a-lifetime event for me. I know a wedding invitation is not a SUMMONS but on that day, I really wished she was there.

The following weekend, we had made plans with friends to see each other, and have a mini-celebration for me and my new husband. She cancelled because she was still upset over the boyfriend. I found out later that she had gone to a show with him and made up.

I feel like this guy is making her into a worse person, I feel like her values and priorities are skewed, and I feel like I’m not important anymore. I’ve been harbouring these bad feelings since she told me she couldn’t go. Is it worth talking about or should I let it go?

TL;DR: best friend bailed on my wedding so that she could go out with her boyfriend. I’m feeling upset over this, but not sure if it is worth talking about

** Edit - I also want to point out that I’m coming to Reddit because I feel like I want an outsider perspective, and I don’t want to complain about my friend to other friends. I think I feel too close to the situation, and I feel guilty for being hurt that my friend decided not to come to my wedding, especially with the emotional circumstances around it.



Submitted September 23, 2019 at 10:32PM by Weddingnoshow https://ift.tt/2laE7CZ
My [25/F] best friend [26/F] bailed on my wedding day My [25/F] best friend [26/F] bailed on my wedding day Reviewed by KING SAMUEL on September 24, 2019 Rating: 5

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