My (nowF21) boyfriend (nowM25) of (now)5 years is verbally abusive, calls me childish and stupid, starts fights and makes me feel worthless

I did it, I broke up with him. When he was away in his room I packed all my essentials with the help of a friend and left. You can read my previous posts and how in denial I was. I feel so much happier, so much better, so relieved now that I’m not under constant pressure anymore. He changed a lot, he stopped with the insults and he stopped fighting over the dumbest things but I can’t wait for him to be the person I want him to be. He still hurt me so much, he still made my life so hard. He still had the mentality of “if I feel bad no one should have fun as well” and it was draining.

I’m staying with my mom now, slowly moving to my new place and I’ve never felt better. If I could do it, after 5 years of depending on him emotionally and feeling like I can’t take a breath without him you can too. You will be so relieved it’s insane. It gets so much better, it truly does. Please stay strong everyone.

If anyone is suffering in an emotionally abusive relationship feel free to reach out. I will love to help or just be there for you.

I was so afraid I wouldn’t be able to live because we did so much together but I found a way around it. I did all the things we did with him alone or with friends and I made those experiences MINE and only MINE. I rewatched all our movies went to places we would go to and did things we would do. It’s still hard, it still girls like hell but I know it’s for the better.

Thank you all for the advice that was given I owe this community so much, all the supportive people and those who reached out, THANK YOU. I heard the things I was in denial of and things I had to hear to be shaken back into reality. Thank you all from the bottom of my heart.

As a side note, while most of the advice was pretty helpful and i used a lot of it when I got out, what made me not listen at the time was the attacks and people saying I’m brainwashed. I absolutely understand that reaction, most of it was true and I might’ve said the same if I wasn’t in a situation like this myself but it makes the victim start defending the abuser or themselves which is what I ended up doing. So as an advice for those that want to help, try taking a more understanding approach to the victims. Not all will listen but someone might.

TL;DR - broke up with my abusive boyfriend feel better and am very thankful for this community.

Submitted September 24, 2019 at 04:00AM by tentaclesnothands https://ift.tt/2mkeKPg