My (22f) boyfriend (23m) has very unrealistic goals for our future.

My boyfriend and I had very different upbringings. He grew up in a house hold with 5 siblings. His parents have a good sized age gap. His family has always done well financially. I grew up with 2 siblings and my parents have always struggled financially. My parents are the same age.

My boyfriend and I often talk about long term goals. We are both interested in marriage and having a family. He wants to have 6 kids. I only want 2-3. I only want that amount because I know he and I won’t be starting a family any time soon. I don’t anticipate us being married and having kids till late 20s/30s. I think having 6 kids given we will start late is very unrealistic given we have no good sized age gap and biology very much impacts pregnancy.

I don’t think he understands how taxing and hard it is to bear children. He even suggested adopting to fill the quota and I’m not interested in adoption. It’s still a lot of work raising 6 kids. It seems like for him he just wants this set up by any means necessary, but he also talks about how he wants to retire early. I pose the question “with what resources?” How are you going to support these so called 6 kids you want to have but retire in your 30s/40s and I’m supposed to stay at home and take care of them all?

Isn’t this ridiculously unrealistic?

TDLR: My (22f) boyfriend (23m) has very unrealistic goals for our future. He wants to have 6 kids.

Submitted February 25, 2019 at 07:59AM by blueindigobb https://ift.tt/2EaKawM