I met my [28F] FWB's [28M] mom and she confided something really dark to me. Should I tell him?

This is a weird situation. I've been hooking up with "Tom" 1-2x a week for just over a year. We met on a dating app and agreed to be friends with benefits. However our FWB situation is basically just a relationship at this point (we're best friends, talk every day, hang out with each other's social circles, etc). That's another story.

I was recently on a road trip to Texas (Tom and I live in Illinois), and was passing through Tom's hometown in Oklahoma. I told him this because I thought it was funny, and he told his mom, and she invited me to stay with her at Tom's childhood home that night so I wouldn't have to pay for a hotel. It definitely occurred to me that it's weird to meet let alone stay with the mother of the dude you've been casually boning, but I figured why not. (Tom just told her we were friends but I'm pretty sure she got the subtext.)

Tom's mom was super nice and welcoming; she was genuinely happy to have me because Tom's father is deceased and she doesn't get a lot of company. That night over dinner we ended up having a pretty deep conversation. She told me that she's never been this lonely in her life and has thought about killing herself. Tom is her only child and only comes home to visit once or twice a year, and sometimes doesn't call her for one or two weeks. She said my visit was the "highlight of her year" and told me to come back anytime.

I've been really upset about this ever since (this was like a week ago). The next time I saw Tom I told him that his mother is a sweetheart and he should try to call/visit her more if he can. He just said yeah she is and yeah he'll try, but I'm afraid he doesn't grasp how lonely and sad she is. I don't want to violate her trust by telling him something she told me in confidence, but I also want Tom to realize how serious the situation is. It's also weird for me obviously because this is supposed to be a casual sexual relationship and now I feel like I'm burdened with this huge emotional connection to Tom's mother. What is the right thing for me to do?

TLDR My FWB's mother told me she's considered suicide because of how lonely she is. Should I tell him?

Submitted February 23, 2019 at 07:29PM by ImpressiveTonight3 https://ift.tt/2SnwT93