About a week ago, I expressed to my fiancé (D) that I was a bit upset his sisters (K - 27 and S - 24) seemed to be blowing me off regarding our wedding. They had waited until the last moment to order their bridesmaid dresses and had basically not communicated with me at all regarding anything about the wedding.
I also let D know it upset me that K and S seemed close with his ex girlfriend, but don’t seem to have any time to talk with me unless we’re at a family event. Since I’ll soon be joining the family, I’d like to have more than a superficial relationship with them.
Fast forward to yesterday, I find out sisters have ordered their dresses and fiancés mom (W) has called the bridal shop to question the sizes they ordered. This, again, puts the dress ordering process on hold (all dress orders need to be in before my shop will place the full order). Because of the new delay, D texts W to ask why this is happening. W gets mad and starts asking why I’m not the one texting her and that if I have an issue, I shouldn’t be going through D to speak with her. During this conversation/argument, D brings up how K and S have been blowing me off.
Apparently, W immediately texts K and S to let them know that’s how we feel. Both K and S start texting D to say how untrue that is. S starts off by being upset D didn’t text her personally if he had an issue, then goes on to say there is plenty of time until the wedding for them to plan something with me.
K completely goes off... D is a recovering heroin addict, he still drinks, but has recently decided to cut wayyyy back on how much he does so. K tells him that I made him do this, then calls him a “little bitch” for listening to me. She then goes on to say she reached out to both of us to plan a dinner and we blew her off. This is not the case, she did ask to do a dinner but then stopped answering when we threw out dates we’d be available. The conversation basically ended in her putting all the blame on D for never being interested in what’s going on in her life.
I feel completely responsible for this drama and I don’t really know how to proceed. I’m an only child, so sibling relationships aren’t something I have a full grasp on. I also don’t even know if I want to pursue getting closer to them anymore. This entire thing started with my feelings being hurt and was all just thrown right back in our faces and we were made out to look like the bad guys.
TLDR: I accidentally started family drama within my fiancé’s family and I’m not really sure where to go from here
Edit: Although I appreciate people DMing me regarding my fiancé being in recovery, it’s not why I made this post, nor would this be the correct community to reach out to for that type of thing. We are both doing fine, I just felt it was an important detail to know.
Submitted February 24, 2019 at 07:38AM by cetacedm https://ift.tt/2TcCvYk
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