He analogizes his fear of driving to my phobia of spiders. It just scares him. I'm tired of being the one to drive us everywhere - appointments, dates, places on my birthday, etc. I started seeing him as less manly and I've started to feel resentful. I want to feel taken care of and taken places. I feel like a lot of this is because of the culture I grew up in - watching movies & TV shows, societal norms, etc. He's didn't grow up in the U.S. and he's perfectly happy taking Uber, train, etc which are really quite expensive - maybe 5x the cost of gas (public transportation is not available where we live). I understand that the overall fee of maintaining a car probably balances out, but I can't get over this feeling despite the fact it's not logical.
I can't help but feel like other girls would understand how this feels (my friends feel the same), but I know it doesn't matter how other people feel but how we feel. I don't want to have these feelings - they're wrong, traditionalist, have no basis, and backwards. The issue keeps coming up over and over again though. I've communicated the same things I have to him that are in this post in an open way, but he just blows up at me and tells me maybe we're not right for each other. It's straining our relationship. What do I do?
tl;dr Husband won't learn how to drive and I resent him. What do I do?
Edit: free public transportation -> public transportation
Submitted November 15, 2018 at 04:11PM by stupidstrawberry https://ift.tt/2QJQe4b
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