I (F27) was told growing up no guy would see me as girlfriend/wife material if I had casual sex. Had one partner 5 years ago, haven't had sex in several years and men still don't see me as girlfriend material. Was I fed lies?

Uhm.......I'm just coming to terms with my sexual history. Growing up as a teen and in my early 20's, I was often told no one would want to date me/marry me if I had casual sex.

So I took it to heart. I had one partner 5 years ago, my first, it held up a couple of months and we had sex like 3 times. After that I haven't met anyone or had sex because I thought I would never be wifematerial if I did.

Several years later and no guy has ever told me that I'm girlfriend/wife material. I've had negative reactions from guys upon them hearing about my scarce sexual history.

Meanwhile I have female friends who have had plenty of casual sex and are now in long term healthy relationships looking to get married and have children.

Have I been lied to my whole life? Why haven't anyone married me or asked me to be their girlfriend?

Tldr: Told not to have sex because it would make me look like not good wife material. Several years later with no sex and I'm still not wife material. Have I been lied to?

Submitted January 31, 2022 at 02:49AM by liesmentellme https://ift.tt/a0A1y9eCT