So I'm absolutely in the wrong here and I'm worried things will never be the same between us. But I want to try.
My husband and I have been together 10 years. High school sweethearts, no other partners, all that jazz. He's a programmer and his main hobbies are gaming, anime, and more programming. I work in a completely different field with different hobbies and our main overlaps have always been food, traveling, and day to day life. We get along great and conversation is easy. I love him very much.
But lately I've been struggling with attraction to him. Our sex life has gone down the older we've gotten. He has a lower libido than I, and I've found that I'm more interested in fantasy and solo time than sex with him. It hasn't been too much of an issue, until now.
A couple weeks ago I had a zoom call with an old friend and we got drunk. I was in my room, my husband was in his room. Both rooms are in the same hallway and I can usually hear him, but my husband always wears headphones and can NEVER hear me when I'm calling him for dinner or something like that.
We got drunk and started talking about our sex lives. I said something like "it's just hard to get horny for a man that never gets off his computer, you know?" I was laughing, being silly, and we moved on to another topic.
Well, my husband apparently was standing right by the door at that moment because he was on his way to the bathroom. And he heard that.
We had an argument, I apologized, we took some time and space, and things are mostly normal. No sex but that's normal for us. But it still feels different. I still feel bad. I wonder if I've damaged his confidence irreparably. I suggested counseling at one point and he said no, he's uncomfortable talking to strangers about our relationship. What do we do?
tl;dr said something hurtful to friend about husband and trying to come back
Submitted April 07, 2021 at 05:59PM by potatocartoon2 https://ift.tt/3fSZ6DV
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