My (24f) boyfriend (24m) keeps all the cards he’s ever gotten from his ex on display- is it okay to ask him to move them?

We’ve been seeing each other for a year now and apart from this one thing, it’s been going really well. He’s an awesome person and I feel very lucky to be with him. He keeps a lot of cards on the only shelf in his bedroom- when I’ve given him cards he’s put them up there too. A couple of days ago they all fell off the shelf and when we were picking them up I realised for the first time that every single one of the ones that aren’t from me are from his last girlfriend- they broke up two years ago. The cards are all love letters to him from her- they are full of stories and inside jokes and a lot of proclamations of love. He carefully put them right back at the front of the shelf- in front of the cards I’ve gotten him over the course of our relationship. I know she was his last significant relationship and of course he is absolutely entitled to hold onto the lovely memories that they must have had together, but having them in my eyeline when I’m sleeping over in his bed just gives me a twisty feeling in my stomach. He talks about her quite a lot too- something I’ve never particularly minded until now. I’ve tried to gently hint that they make me uncomfortable but he isn’t getting the hint and I don’t know if I should be more direct or not. Since I saw what they were I’ve been feeling quite insecure and internally comparing myself to his ex- am I being overly sensitive?

It’s important to note that I’m not wanting him to get rid of them altogether- they must mean a lot to him and I’m okay with that, we’ve all got a past after all- I just don’t really like looking at them when we’re spending time together. I love him and I really don’t want to mess things up, but this has been really playing on my mind. I want to know if I’m being horrible or not? And how can I ask him to move them without coming off as nasty?

TL;DR: My fairly long term boyfriend keeps all of the cards from his last girlfriend on prominent display in his bedroom and it makes me feel insecure. Am I being unreasonable if I ask him to move them somewhere else?

Submitted April 07, 2021 at 12:00PM by feelyofeels https://ift.tt/3fN4Q2d