I (28F) am being driven crazy by my boyfriend’s (31M) constant gaming + the sound of his loud + frantic mouse-clicking. Can anyone else relate, or am I just too sensitive??

My boyfriend (as of ~1 year) is sweet and understanding and we are best friends but I CANNOT STAND the sound of mouse clicking when he games.

He games for hours on end whenever he gets the chance. Sometimes he will do it for 10 hours a day. Most days he does it for 2-3 hours a day. He uses my 2nd (extra) computer to game on since he can’t afford his own right now (he’s in a transition of his life after dropping out of school due to serious health problems and he cant afford his own computer).

What he doesn’t understand is that I absolutely cannot stand the sound of the mouse clicking frantically. Many clicks per second, the sound of the computer’s fan on loud, seeing him staring blank-faced at his game, it’s the most irritating thing ever. I try to explain this to him and he tells me that I’m being controlling/that I am being dramatic and I should just put headphones on and ignore it. But I hear the clicking through my headphones and it pisses me off. I can’t concentrate, it gives me a headache, and generally infuriates me from extreme irritation.

We can’t afford anything bigger than a tiny apartment, which we split rent for. I often go into the bedroom to do my projects/work/writing, but the internet isn’t good there so often I can’t do much while I’m there so I come back to the living room, where I’m forced to endure the aggravating sound of his endless mouse clicks.

I understand that I’m hypersensitive (is anyone else irritated out of their mind by this?!), but if it was just an hour or two a day I would probably just deal with it. The problem is that sometimes he goes on for HOURS and I never know when or if he will stop. I spend hours in my bedroom escaping it. I don’t know why but this little sound disturbs by peace more than I can possibly even express.

When I confront him, he accuses me of being hypersensitive, dramatic, and controlling. That it’s “not a big deal” and I’m just trying to stop him from having fun, since he’s in a lot of pain from a chronic illness. I have chronic pain & a chronic illness too, though.

What do you guys think? Am I being selfish / overreacting? Should I work on figuring out how to get over it? Or is he being unreasonable ?

Thanks!

TL;DR: my boyfriend plays video games very very very often (he’s in transition in his life because he needed to drop out of school due to physical health problems) and the sound of his video gaming + constant mouse clicking is practically driving me to the brink of insanity. Am I being overly sensitive or is he being unreasonable?

Submitted April 08, 2021 at 02:03AM by thatmousetho https://ift.tt/3d1gG70