Throwaway account, for what it's worth (family knows of my main).
TLDR: I'm wondering if my gf is bi-polar, we've both got our own mental issues, both working on them, she left for a week on a break, I don't know if I even want to continue my relationship with her, we live together in a rental house.
Where to start.. This is my second serious relationship after an amicable divorce, and we've been together for just over 9 months. We moved in together at around 6 months. A little rushed, I know, but we were spending every night together as it was, and we literally lived across the street from each other, in separate apartments.
We've definitely had our fair share of issues over the relationship (she has a thyroid problem, suffers from depression due to Covid), I'm treating AUD due to PTSD, was also on anti-depressants for 2 months). We've been super hot most of our relationship, super communicative (until the last week), but there have definitely been some red flags. (I won't bother including, as this post is long enough, but will include if asked).
I've been having these random pass-outs, where I sit down and in less than a minute, I'm fast asleep for 1-2 hours when I'm at home. I had one on the weekend after the two of us celebrated my birthday weekend. Admittedly, I had drank a few beers (6), which does almost nothing for me (I'm on medication that blocks the enjoyment of alcohol, so I can control how much I drink). I'm currently awaiting the results of bloodwork to see if chemical intoxication from work is causing me to pass out.
Anyways, I digress. I had a pass-out, on the toilet, and awake to her face-timing my fucking mother to film me, and I am beyond mortified. I was so mad, I told her I was sleeping on the couch. So I did.
I awoke the next morning, early enough to think about the prior night's events. Everything the previous night was absolutely fine until the washroom event. She eventually awakes as well, and precedes to absolutely ignore me all day, recoiling from my attempted touches and hugs, flat out refusing to talk with me. I finally say 'fuck it', and go back to building my new home gym in the basement. A few hours later, I hear her coming down the basement stairs, and she asks if I can move my truck in the driveway (it was blocking her car in the garage, I have my bikes inside).
I answer, "no problem, what's up?" and she responds she's leaving for the night. I'm shocked, and ask "why?".. She responds with "We currently have a lot of problems between us, and I need a break".
I'm beyond shocked at what is going on, but agree, and she leaves. Then, it gets really wierd.
I find out she sent these massively long texts to my closest friends, my mom, and who knows who else, about how I need help. After talking with multiple people, it's pretty insane how over-dramatic she's been, and not one person I've talked to has been able to justify the lengths she has gone to. They're alienated, I'm embarrassed, and half of me wants to just wash my hands of this entire situation. The other half wonders if I'M overreacting by thinking about ending the relationship in its entirety.
I just don't know. She supposedly comes back on Saturday, I'm not sure if I should keep thinking about if she should ask to be tested for being bi-polar (she goes from hot to cold, back and forth over the weirdest things). When things are good, they're fantastic, and when she loses her shit.. well, she did throw a rock at me for no reason one time, due to her being extremely drunk. I just chalked that up to stupidity.
Anyways, if you've read this far, I'll answer any more questions about any advice. Also, I've constantly read that a relationship "break" is just a break-up in process, just slower.
Submitted January 19, 2021 at 01:34PM by mesululu https://ift.tt/2LNrb32
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