Our most recent issues for which we go to therapy for are that he blames me for everything. I have an issue and I am open and honest with him about it and he puts it all on me as a response. I understand criticisms are hard. But I'm past resentment at this point for going along with things so far beyond my boundaries for the sake of his feelings. He just went on a tirade against me because I asked him (after over 10 times bringing it up.... probably more than that) to just stop touching me and initiating sex with me if its been more than 2 days since he has showered (which was our compromise I'd much rather him shower daily) he can go over a week without showering. And tbh I would feel so violated being intimate with him. He is constantly scratching his butt or crotch like he literally puts his hands down his pants and scratches for minutes at a time. I ask him why and he says because it's sweaty and stuff.... I'm overwhelmed with my own life and I'm tired of treating him like a baby and telling him he needs to shower. I don't understand why he doesn't just shower....This has been a problem for over a year among other problems. He says I don't give him time or space. We are taking care of a newborn I am also in school and we are living on his unemployment until he finds work. I often leave the house with our child to give him space. But he always comes back at me with all the things he does and why am I so ungrateful. I feel like it's unfair because he feels like since he washes the dishes and went grocery shopping a few times I can't have a problem with him not showering. I also asked him to help me a bit more around the house so I have time for school. Im finishing my last semester and classes are hard. That was a big fight. Everything he does for me he holds over my head so that whenever I come to him with a problem he throws in my face how he us providing for us etc. And we should just go 50/50. He says a bunch of stuff like that when he is mad and then takes it back saying I don't have to work (I'm getting a job anyway as soon as I finish school) and he is just frustrated with himself. At this point I feel like I'm just counting the days until I finish school find a job and get my own place. Life would be alot easier on my own. I put alot into our relationship and to make him happy just for him to tell me I'm mean and unsupportive and not a team player because I don't have it in me to continually remind him to shower. I love him and I want to keep our family together but I feel like I'm at my wits end. There are two sides to every story of course... but I really feel like he is being unfair.
Tldr: I'm really just venting about my husband.....
Submitted January 20, 2021 at 07:10PM by bigcupofanxiety https://ift.tt/2Not86x
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